Promise

What is a promise? is it a pact to evenly spread the feel of comfort between two beings? a pact made by one and approved by the other in a limited period of time so that both can hold or even proceed with what ever there is to do within the period of the pact.
If it is, then can such pact be made by one person to keep comfort on another while that person did no such thing to fulfill it, in other words, can a promise be made on another promise in a consecutive numbers without even have to keep either one?
If promises has been made in abundant, then what is the use of it? What good is a promise
if it's not to be kept? let alone many.
Do you ask a person to keep his/her promise? because temporary lapse of memories are an epidemic nowadays (I am one of the people infected by the epidemy), you hear more and more people say "Oh shit.." or "Damn.." and even "Sorry must have slipped my mind". And you might feel somewhat bothered by it, but then you got over it.
How about a promise that was made under difficult circumstances? for example when you are faced with someone who wouldn't take no for an answer (which is a pain in the ass) repeatedly exclaiming plea, begging you to say yes, or at least a sign of agreement followed with the word "I promise" when you know you are not going to be able to keep. That is an evidence that a promise is a way to keep a certain comfort between two beings, even if it is merely an illusion.
Such illusion can start many great things into motion. Promise of a good life ahead can turn one person from nothing into something. You put more and more effort into something because you were promised that there will be something in the end, and usually something is waiting at the end of your hard work, be it something you like or not. But most of the time you will like it, because of all the hardship and all the work you have done to get there, you will appreciate what you've earned.

If promise is how it is as explained above then it is not certain! So how can you built something upon uncertainty? it would only in vain And yet uncertainty begets fear, a fear of not having, not being able to place a certain hope, fear of losing, all the quality of "not" that made love such a wonderful thing.
How many promise can one keep to make love last? and how many to receive in order to have a lasting love (if such thing even exist)? How many promises can one endure if promises aren't kept? Is it not painful enough to get you to the point where you say "Stop!", "Enough!". But then again they say it's the pain that's keeping them together. When you've lived long enough with "the pain" and those broken promises, you'll start to feel a "comfort", you start to understand the reason why that significant other is making all those promises, you stop arguing about how those promises are never kept, and you will feel a whole lot more closer in terms of relationship.
So if in reality no promise means you might just lose a certain someone, then by all means, make promises now! while you still have what others only dream about.
How many promise is there in a love?
Does love even consist of promises?
How many promises does it takes to start love?
Does it built upon promises?
I cannot answer those question, I can only imagine the answer for I am not a man with too many promises, for me to face uncertainty with another uncertainty would be like walking on thin ice, you don't know if you are going to make it across the lake or are you going to fall into the freezing cold water. But in some case you will be forced to cross the stream of uncertainty with another in order to make way for your goals, a mean to an end, may not be a justified one but it may get you there.
As I have proven a couple of times, love do not come without promises. It's like a combo meal where you get not only your meal of choice but you also get your drink (preferably soda), some fries, and your dessert with one price.
Having said all this I am obligated to encourage to make promises (and keep them, don't break them) so the word helpless or hopeless romantic is not a part of your vocabulary

Which leads back to the purpose of all these words, that is finding my own definition of promise, whether it is right or wrong by others definitions. It matters not because these past couple of weeks I remember one promise of mine, a promise that was once broken that I shall fix with the best of my ability and somehow I will keep it gift wrapped it as a present for you, so if the road should ever leads to you, we shall have something to built upon.

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